So I dated a murderer………but my biggest love, Wolly my dog come into my life!

Life has an uncanny way of surprising us, weaving tales of heartbreak and resilience. My own narrative unfolded in a way I never imagined—intertwined with someone whose hidden darkness would eventually surface in the most devastating manner. This is the story of dating someone who lied a lot & committed a grievous crime while we were together, and how, against all odds, I found the strength to rebuild and open my heart to love again, with the unwavering support of my canine companion and a true lifesaver.

1. The Unseen Darkness:

   • Reflecting on my past, I discovered that the person I dated had a sinister secret— journey leading straight to jail. It wasn't a distant history; it happened while we were together, shattering my trust and sense of security.

   • The shock and disbelief were overwhelming, leaving me grappling with a profound sense of betrayal and questioning my own judgment.

2. A Forced Retreat:

   • The weight of the situation became unbearable, compelling me to leave town for three months. The need to distance myself from the community's gaze and the media frenzy was a necessary step towards self-preservation.

   • During this period of isolation, I faced an additional challenge—difficulty discussing my trauma with close friends who, understandably, were triggered by their own past traumas.

3. The Lifesaver:

   • Amidst the darkness, a source of unwavering support emerged—my loyal canine companion, Wolly. Purchased for emotional support during challenging times, Wolly became a lifesaver, offering solace and a comforting presence that words couldn't provide.

4. Years of Resilience:

   • Time became a companion in my healing journey. Years passed, marked by an unintentional avoidance/ disinterest of romantic entanglements.

5. A Glimmer of Hope:

   • The past year became a turning point, a gradual awakening that I was capable of love and trust once more. The walls around my heart began to crumble as I allowed myself to explore the possibility of connections.

6. Rediscovering Love:

   • Through self-reflection, therapy, and the support of my best friend Brendon during that period of my life (a man I trusted & that made me feel safe ), I cautiously embraced the idea of dating again. Now at 40 after 5 years single and 3 years since this incident I feel like best version of myself and open to falling in love one day again.